Remember the time when you cried so hard you couldn’t breathe? Remember the time you hated the morning because that meant you had to face the day and you felt too weak to even get out of bed? Remember the time it seemed as if everything was going wrong around you and you didn’t know if you could survive?
There comes a point in a woman’s life that is far more stressful than her wedding day, and almost as traumatizing as menopause. The day when she realizes that no matter what she does, no matter how much she tries to play it down, she will beyond a doubt always be way to good for any living man.
Her fabulosity, drive and ambition will always seem to outshine that of a mans, and her strength and courage make it impossible to depend on him. She will try search oceans and foreign lands, and she may even get close, but no one will ever be able to love her as much as she loves herself. But once she accepts this and gets past the burdens that come with being totally amazing, then she can move on and find someone who not “completes” her for she is complete, not “saves” her for she does not need saving, but complements her, helps her learn more about herself, and loves her to the best of his ability.
This man. Will just have to do.
My boyfriend’s friend once made a passing comment meant as a joke that I must be careful since I was dating a psychopath. I giggled and brushed it off but every time I would get upset at my boyfriend (usually after having too much to drink) his comment kept coming back into my head. Maybe I am dating a psychopath.
Now let me just say, I have a fair amount of crazy in me too, and so as a normal crazy woman would do I googled it… “signs that you are dating a psychopath”. To my surprise pages and pages of articles came up which not only concerned me (why have so many women dated psychopaths) but also arose curiosity. I became possessed and in half an hour I had read over 10 articles and for at least 30 minutes of my life i was convinced I was dating a psychopath/sociopath.
I sat on my bed thinking that he could turn into a Ted Bundy and suddenly slash someone’s throat, or kill me in my sleep, or maybe he has been manipulating me all this time. Then suddenly like a wave of consciousness, my commons sense finally came back to me. Wait, I am the same person who was convinced I had lung cancer just because my chest hurt and Google told me so. Also Google helped me delude myself about aliens and how the illuminati control the world (no offence to people who still believe that). Also there were signs that my boyfriend didn’t possess, like being a compulsive liar, or having no goals or close friends. And the rest just seemed like normal things to have in a relationship 0_0.
Anyway I just realized that if I had a problem with him, so much so I would think I was dating a psycho I should rather just talk to him instead of Google it and freak myself out (Google has way to many results on this topic, the world is full of suspicious women). Also they are real women who go through emotional and physical abuse everyday as a result of their relationships and I should in no way try to mock that. Sometimes as women we over think, over react and under rationalize.
But for those of you who really think you are dating psychopaths/sociopaths here are apparently the top 10 signs, also maybe you should see a therapist first before banishing your loved one into psycho zone.
1. They are charming and charismatic (as men should be)
2. They are egotistical (as most men are)
3. They are a pathological liar (eek… why are you still dating him)
4. You have never met any of their friends/ family (do they even exist)
5. They exaggerate when they tell stories (something that women do on the daily)
6. He makes promises he never keeps (this could be irritating 0_0)
7. He is constantly using you (grow a back-bone)
8. He always plays the victim and never takes responsibility (boohoo, tell him to grow some balls)
9. He is rushing in the relationship (no man proposed after 2 weeks -__-)
10. He gets strangely angry when he is wrong or told off (it’s time to throw up your deuces)
As a disclaimer I must just say I am not a professional psychologist, whether or not you are dating someone who needs help is your baby, talk to someone or get more professional insight.